8 REAL Things Poor People Do That The Rich Don’t

Internet is filled with videos, Articles and books such as 10 things poor people do that the rich don’t or 15 things rich people do that the poor don’t or something along those lines. Many of them are quite interesting and are fun to read or watch but they don’t really explain the difference.
DO you really think that the difference between the rich and poor is that, poor people watch TV while the Rich don’t or rich people shower more often compare to the poor? Neither do I, if you suddenly start showering more often or watching less TV, you are not going to get rich because the real difference is in the mentality, in the way, the play the game of money. And in this Post, we are going to take a look at 8 things that poor people do that are keeping them poor.

Number 1, Poor People Play Defense. If you were to play any game strictly on defense, what are the chances of you winning that game? Extremely low or none, right? And yet, most people play the game of money exactly like that. Their primary goal is not to win or to be at the top but rather not to lose. They just want to pay all the bills and stay out of the debt. The problem with this strategy is that when your goal is too simply to be above the water, that's maximum what you will get. Of course, some people are little better than that, they save 10 percent of their income, invest it in the stock market and just hope that the stock market doesn’t collapse so that when they get old, they will have something to rely on. But until then, they will be locked into the comfort zone of a small paycheck! There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if your goal is to simply pay the bills, you will just stay wherever you are. If you want to create real wealth, you should stop playing defense and start playing offense and shoot for the stars. As a wise man once said: “If you shoot for the stars, you’ll at least hit the moon.”

Number 2, Next, Poor People Do Not Value Freedom When I say freedom, I do not mean living in a democracy or not. Freedom means living the life that you want, and not the one that someone else wants you to live, doing what you want, how you want and where you want! That's why you find a lot of people say: Money isn’t important! Don't make your life all about money! Or the most famous of them: Money is the root of all evils! And yet you find those people working all of their life from morning till evening for some pennies just to keep the bill collectors away from their house. Doing the job that they wish they can quite, not only because they hate the job, but they also probably hate their boss! And if they had the opportunity, they would quit that job. That's why money equals freedom! So, how do you expect yourself to chase money if you look at it as something negative? Rich people keep getting richer because it gives them more and more freedom to do with their lives what they want.

Number 3, Poor people work hard for their money It sounds a bit controversial, aren’t you suppose to work hard for your money. Let me explain. What do most people do if they want to make more money? They work harder to get promoted and if that’s not enough, they might consider working overtime or getting a second job.  The problem with this is that, no matter how much you are paid, at the end of the day, your time is limited. And rich people perfectly understand that, so instead of working hard for their money, they let their money work hard for them.  They look at money as a tool that can earn them even more money and not simply a piece of paper they can use to buy what they want like most people treat money. Of course, first you probably will have to work hard for the money, but it's temporary for the rich while it's permanent for the poor. Once you make enough where your money can replace you, you will have more freedom!
Number 4, Poor People Focus On Obstacles One of my friends wants to start a chain of restaurants. In fact, he has been telling me that for the last 3 or 4 years but every time I ask him why he hasn’t started yet, he typical response, I don’t have the money and I don’t want to get into debt. And that’s the problem. Poor people are constantly looking for something to go wrong. In these 4 years, he could have found an investor or at least saved up enough to start. He hasn’t even studied the market, he doesn’t even have a plan. He believes that if he gets the money, the rest will somehow magically happens. But what will end up happening is that, he will just come across another obstacle. It doesn’t matter what business you want to get in, there will always be obstacles, there are millions of things that could go wrong. And if you are like my friend who isn’t doing anything but complains how difficult it is, you are probably in the same dark financial position that he is. Some people are even on a different level, even if they have the money and all the essentials, they will say things such as: What if it doesn’t work? What if people are going to know that I have failed! For God's sake, no one cares about that.
Number 5, Poor people chose to be paid based on time How often do you hear people say, I deserve to be paid 50 bucks an hour or 60 bucks. I have a degree from such and such school, I work harder than any else, I am smarter or more talented. You know what! No one gives a damn, Would you watch this video because I have spent so and so hour creating it? What matters at the end of the day is how much value you can deliver. You might be working harder than Jeff Bezos, but Bezos will be making 4.5 million dollars an hour and you won’t because while you are complaining, his company is providing value to millions of people all around the globe.
Number 6, Poor People resent rich and successful people The other day, I was watching an interview with a successful and quite famous entrepreneur. Then, I scrolled down to read some of the comments and a lot of people were like. This douchbag doesn’t deserve to be on this channel, he is a scumbag. And it really freaked me out, the guy worked hard to be in that position, Even if he has inherited some of his wealth, he is probably much more disciplined than you. Some people seem to have some kind of moral obligation to hate the top 1 percent or certain rich families. Here is a life hack! instead of hating them, how about you join them!
Number 7, poor people think they know everything this is the most ridiculers’ one. What do people do when they face financial problems? They complain about it, there are bazillion number of things you can blame, starting from politicians that run the country and ending it with your boss. But if you tell him to pick up a book and learn even the basics of money management. He will tell you, this is my money and I know how to take care of it, well, if you have figured everything out, why on earth you are always broke. And then they will give you even more excuses. And it's not only about money. But everything else. Haven’t you realized when people get into an argument, they try to prove that they are right, even if they are not, instead of trying to learn? And to be honest, I have had this mentality back when I was a teenager, I was quite stubborn. But then I realized that, If I keep going like this, I am never going to grow, So I stopped acting like I know everything, and start paying attention to my flows and How can I fix them.
Number 8, Poor People Mismanage their money knowing how to manage money isn’t something you are born with, but rather you have to learn. Just because you are making money, doesn’t mean you know how to manage it properly. People think that if they start managing their money, it will restrict their freedom. They don’t want to stick to a certain budget or think hard before buying something. They finally got the paycheck and they want to enjoy it. But the truth is, if you don’t manage your money, you will never achieve financial independence and that short term feeling of mindless satisfaction isn’t real freedom.  And secondly, people think that you need to make a lot of money to manage it. Trust me, it gets way more difficult than you think and if you can’t even handle your paycheck properly, do you think you can manage 10 times that amount? By now, you probably have already realized that what makes poor people really poor is a poor mentality and not having money is one of the consequences of that. The good news is that you can change your mentality.

 That doesn’t you mean, the next day you will be sitting on a pile of cash. No, but slowly, you will start looking at things differently, you will start thinking differently and instead of complaining, you will start taking advantage of all the opportunities that you are coming across and over time, you will improve your financial situation. A wise man once said: the best way to help the poor is not to become one of them. This Article is based on a book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by Harv Eker. It's an amazing book, I would recommend Everyone

The 3 Ways To Become A Millionaire

How many millionaires are there in the United States? What If I told you that just in 2018, 700K people became millionaires. And now try to guess the total number, it's in millions, to be exact, there are over 11 million millionaires just here in the US! And now try to imagine how many millionaires are there worldwide! the world is actually filled with millionaires! Every single day, thousands of people join the club. However, If you give it a closer look, all millionaires can be divided into 3 categories, because, there are essentially 3 ways to become a self-made millionaire unless your dad will give you a small loan of a million-dollar, and that will be the fourth way. By the way, contrary to the popular belief. Only 20 percent of millionaires have inherited their wealth, the other 80 percent made it with their blood and sweat. In fact, out of 2604 billionaires worldwide, 56% of them are self-made. So even if you are not born with a silver spoon in your mouth, your chances to become one are reasonable. There are basically 3 financially paths you can take! Sidewalk, Slow lane, and The Fast lane!

1. Slow lane is get rich slow formula, or get rich old where you will be on a wheelchair! The Slow lane is your typical parent's advice: Go to school, get good grades, graduate, get a good job, save 10%, invest in the stock market, max your 401k, clip coupons…then, someday, when you are, oh, 65, maybe 70 years old, you will be rich. Congratulations, you have made it! The problem with the Slow lane is that you will have to sacrifice your entire life so that you can live your dream life when you are in a wheelchair. Which I don't really like because once you are old, you can’t get back young again, and Time is out of your hands. So as your income, you can’t double it or triple it every year, try asking your boss for a 100 percent raise, you will most likely get fired! So, If you decide to take this path, remember, you are not going to drive that Ferrari while you are young, you are not goanna travel and have adventures because it's quite difficult to do that when you are 70. You will live like a slave waiting for Friday to celebrate your freedom and then get back to slavery on Monday. If Buffet started investing when he was just 11 years and only made his first million by the age of 31. How long do you think it will take you to make even a million dollars when you haven’t even invested a single dime in the stock market yet and you are 25! Nonetheless, it’s probably the best strategy for most people.
Although you will have a boring mediocre life, you will have a financial plan that works! Even if it's not exciting. You will be a millionaire in 30 or 40 years. In fact, a considerable number of millionaires in the US have taken this path. It's safe, secure and guaranteed and better than the second option - The Sidewalk.

2. Sidewalker: The Sildewalkers are usually one step away from bankruptcy, because they are more bothered about living their dream life today and aren’t much into the future. They can even make millions of dollars but still, end up poor like a professional athlete or an actor. Your album fails, you get injured, and you get homeless and file for bankruptcy. Even if you have a prosperous carrier, chances that you will remain a millionaire after you retire are really low. 78% of NFL players are either bankrupt or under financial stress within 2 years of retirement. 60 percent of NBA players go bankrupt after 5 years of ending their career. Imagine making millions of dollars but still go broke. It sounds unbelievable, but that’s what happens when you decide to become a pro athlete. There isn't time for financial education, you have to work hard day and night to be at the top, and there will be people who are more talented than you or simply have better genetics. The numbers of athletes who end up making it to the pro level are less than 1 percent. While you are having the greatest years of your career, you get used to a certain lifestyle that’s completely taken care by your multimillion dollar salary, and once you retire its difficult to get back to an average life. So you go broke in few years. The numbers of athletes who build a sustainable business while making it to the top like Michael Jordan are an extremely small minority. And even those who end up earning 400 million dollars like Tyson did can still go absolutely broke! The worst part about it is that. With the rise of social media, everyone is taking the sidewalk. You pull out your phone and see how these people are driving ferries and living their dream lives. and You don't want to be left behind, You might be working hard, but whatever money you make, you spend it on the next great gadget, on the next trip so that you have something to post on your Instagram. On a more expensive car. Sidewalkers are trapped in such a lifestyle where they are driven by their urgent instant need for pleasure. Every dime you make will directly go to your car payment, clothes, whatever. You are not worried about the future because you think that someday, sometime in the future you will hit big. but you most probably won't. So it's not the wisest option to take!

3. Fast lane And then there is the Fast lane. The whole idea behind it is that, instead of sacrificing today for tomorrow or tomorrow for today. Get out and provide value to as many people as possible. You see most of us are consumers because to provide value, you need to have something first. And most people do not take the time and effort to build themselves up to a point where they will have something to give. Mark Zuckerberg became a billionaire in just a few years because he provided a platform to millions of people to socialize. If you give it a closer a look, the purpose of any business is to give value in different ways, the store besides your house provides you with the groceries, the restaurant downside the road provides you with the food. Your favorite YouTuber provides you with content that you find interesting. Amazon saves you the time and makes shopping much easier! And what makes this path much more appealing than the other two, There is no limit to how much you can make! You want to triple your income in the next 3 month, It's under your control! You don't have to beg your boss for a 5 percent raise like the Slowlaners do. And you are not scarifying your future like the sidewalks do because Fastlaners take that money and buy real estate, patents, businesses that will keep raising their income.
The challenge with the Fastlane is that you will have to spend first an enormous amount of time to create something that will truly bring value to a substantial number of people. Of course, it's not easy, and most people would never be able to do that, because the other path looks more appealing since that’s what being rich means to most people. But  “When you finance an $80,000 Mercedes Benz over six years because that's all you could afford, that isn't wealth, but the impersonation of wealth. You are Fooling yourself. It still blows my mind how people travel while not having even a thousand dollars in their savings account. Wealth isn't embodied in a car or clothes but in the freedom to know that you can buy it. That's why it's easy to find self-made not only millionaire but billionaires who are cheap because they know that they have the freedom to afford pretty much anything anytime they want. On the other side, you have people who haven't paid their students loans yet but are completely comfortable to take another loan to show everyone how successful they are. People don’t choose to be poor.
They make poor decisions that slowly lead them into that direction. Conclusion  So here are the 3 financial roads that you can take to become a millionaire. Of course, the Fastlane is the most rewarding one where you can become a millionaire in just a few years and stay one for the rest of your life., but its also the most challenging one, which is why most people won't take it, but being a Sidewalker isn't sustainable, that's why the Slowlane is probably the best option for most people. This Article is based on a book, the Millionaire Fastlane by MJ Demarco, It's a brilliant read which I recommend to everyone. It's quite different from all other books on this subject.

3 Best Best Habits of Rich People

3 Best Best Habits of Rich People

By: John Crestani

Have you ever wondered why you struggle financially? Why you always seem to have no money at the end of every month? Or you've never been able to save up enough for your retirement? Well, the reason is because you have the habits of poor people. And the thing is rich people have different habits. 
And in this Article, I'm going to be going over the 3 habits of rich people that allow them to continue making more money. It's not an act. Getting rich is not just an act. It's not like you pick up a lottery ticket and suddenly you're rich. It's not luck. It's a habit, it's a process that can be learned. And I'm going to be going over these 3 elements that are going to help you get embody the habits of rich people. 
Keep reading and take notes and help take your life to the next level. So, I've made millions of dollars in my internet business. I have enough money to retire. And the thing you need to know is that rich people and poor people have very different habits. And you know, we do the same things every day. We just kind of go by the same cycle all the time. And in order to change you know your bank account from being less than a desirable to the point where you get excited to look at every time, your bank has more money in it. You've got to change up your essential habits. And these 3 things are the essential habits of rich people that I'm going to try to distill for you. I don't know everything. You know, I'm not saying this is the ultimate. You know, I'm not a billionaire but these are 3 things that I found that are very different from people with poor mindsets and rich mindsets. 
Now, the first thing is that rich people count their money, okay? Count their money. Now, you would think that somebody like me you know, I'm making hundreds of thousands of dollars a month in my business would not feel the need to actually count all of my costs and look at what each line item on my credit card I was spending money on. And use mint and kind of categorize my expenses and where I'm over, where I'm under. But the reality is, is that I spend and many of the people I know who are very wealthy are crazy about counting where their money's going. Where it's coming from.  Knowing exactly all of these different elements about their money. Poor people, they get a bill and they say, "Ugh!" You know, they get a tax bill at the end of the year that might be one of the only times they actually count their money. And poor people get a tax bill and they say, "Ugh! Screw it. Got to pay it." And they send their money to the government, right? But rich people, what we do is we look at the tax but when we say, "Hmm. Cool. Opportunity for negotiation. I wonder how much I can get this down." And I'm in the highest tax bracket, income wise and I probably paid closer to the lowest tax bracket because I negotiated. I found the deductions. I hired somebody who was knowledgeable in this space for a fraction of the money that it costs to save me the hundreds of thousands of dollars I did. So, we count our money. We figure out where it's coming from. What we can do to maximize things. What we can do to save things. We don't just go out and say, "Oh! Cool. I have a thousand dollars left in my bank account at the end of the month.
" Now, the second thing about rich people is that rich people pay themselves first. Pay yourself first. Okay. Now, paying yourself first does not mean buying yourself that car, getting yourself a vacation to reward yourself or it doesn't mean any of that stuff. What paying yourself first means is actually paying yourself a salary. Putting that money into 401k. Saving that up. Putting that in you know, expense everything you can through your business or through your company or whatever you do. You know, even as an employee, you can set up an LLC and expense everything through there but you pay yourself first, okay? I'm saving up money every single month even though I have very high earning power and I very high confidence in my business doing well. I always make sure that at the end of the day I am always making money before anybody else. It always happens. I'm saving up money for myself in my personal bank account, my 401k, etc. Pay yourself first and you'll do better. 
Now, the third part of this is know how to improve your income. Now, I just got to take off my jacket for this because this part makes me angry. And people don't understand this. Knowing how to improve your income, you need to go to what I call the money equation, okay? What is your money equation? Do you even know what your money equation is? Everybody has a money equation attached to the back of their head. And you are only going to ever be as good as your money equation. Now, let's look at this, right? So, let's say you're working a job. You're getting paid $20 an hour, right? Your money equation is hours times $20, right? Very simple. The most your money equation can ever be is 168 which is the number of hours in a week times $20. Therefore the most money you can possibly ever make is around $12,000 a month, right? So now, you have a number. You know the most you can possibly ever hope to earn is 20 times the number of hours a week. But that's not feasible to actually do. You know, so you have to account for sleep and some of these other things. But either way, you have a very clear maximum to the amount of money. You can make this doesn't give a lot of opportunity for improvement. And even if you go for raises or promotions, probably the most you will get a raise for is up to 20% of your income. 
So, that 12,000 you could times it by 1.2 and the most your money equation will ever get up to is about you know, 14-15 thousand dollars. So, that is a very real number. Your range is determined by the number of hours. Now, similarly, if you're working a salary job, your money equation is salary times the year. It's very simple. And that's the most you can ever make. Now, if you want to save up for retirement, if you want to save up money, if you're working in a big city, 12,000 a month isn't necessarily going to give you a lot of money to save you. In fact, $12,000 a month is actually just above the poverty line in San Francisco. So, you need to change your money equation. Another example of a money equation is if you are running an agency. Or if you're you know working on clients like a social media marketing agency like I used to do. I could only handle about 5 to 10 clients per month. 10 clients per month max was the amount of clients that I could handle. You know, just each client took more time. So my money equation was basically, I was charging $500 and it was times 10, okay? Now, my money equation was very limited, okay? And I had to change. You know, but my equation was basically clients times 10. Because I knew that was the most number of clients that I could personally deal with Phone calls and campaign builds and landing page builds per month. But I had a very easy way to change this. And I remember I went to an event in 2012, right? I was never able to replace the income I made from my job. I was making 6,000 a month and I could only manage 10 clients a month part-time. 
Now, I went to this seminar. And this really tall man with big teeth and big hands, he forced me to question myself and ask me. And by the way, if you know who this really tall man with big teeth and big hands is type it in the comments. I'll give a big virtual hug to everybody who knows who I'm talking about. But this person asked me to question what am I doing. And if I continue going the same route, will I ever get to my goal? And I realized my equation is wrong. And I've got to change my equation. Now, my equation was I charged each client $500 per month. But when I realized that this I could change that. And I realized that I could change my own wealth equation and I could start charging clients $10,000 a month, right? This is what I did. And I realized I could do and I could make as much as $100,000 a month which is what I wanted to get to. I changed my wealth equation around. And I was able to get there. 
Within a few months, I got 3 clients that were paying me $10,000 a month. Now, I had to talk to different people. I had to change up a little bit of what I was offering. Really, actually I just had to find new places, new prospects to talk to. And I was able to get to my goal a few years later of $100,000 a month in my business. 2 or 3 years later, I got there. And that was life-changing. But you have to understand know how to improve your income. Know your wealth equation and you will be able to figure out what you need to improve it. Now, I teach affiliate marketing and affiliate marketing is based on results. If you can sell one of these products, you'll get $50. If you sell 10 of these products, you'll get $500. So your wealth equation is based on results that you get for company. The results equation, the money equation built in allows for exponential growth. 
Allows for unrealistic incomes by modern day standards. And if you just start mining in the right place, if you just start doing a business where your money equation allows you to reach whatever income goal you want, you can get there. But the point is you need to change your money equation around first. 

Let's start realizing that poor and rich, they're mindsets put in to us by the media, by society, by the education system and by our family and we can change that around if we want to. So, dedicate yourself to getting there.

This Is Why You Don't Succeed - Simon Sinek on The Millennial Generation

This Is Why You Don't Succeed - Simon Sinek on The Millennial Generation

I have yet to give a speech or have a meeting where somebody doesn't ask me the Millennial question. What's the millennial question? 
Apparently Millennial’s as a generation which is a group of people who were born approximately in 1984 and after are tough to manage and they're accused of being entitled and narcissistic self-interested, unfocused, lazy but entitled is the big one and because they confound leadership. So much what's happening as leaders are asking the Millennial’s what do you want? and Millennials are saying we want to work in a place with purpose, love that we want make an impact. You know whatever that means we want free food and bean bags and so somebody articulates some sort of purpose. There's lots of free food and there's bean bags and yet for some reason they are still not happy and that's because they're missing this. There's a missing piece what I've learned is that. There I can break it down into four pieces right there are four.
Four things, four characteristics one is parenting, the other one is technology, third is impatience and the fourth is environment. The generation that we call the Millennials too many of them grew up subject to not my words failed parenting strategies where for example they were told that they were special all the time. They were told that, they have anything they want in life just because they want it some of them got into honors classes not because they deserved it but because their parents complained and some of them got “A” is not because they earned them but because the teachers didn't want to do with the parents.
Some kids got participation medals, you got a medal for coming in last right which the science we know is pretty clear which is it devalues the medal and the reward for those who actually work hard and that actually makes the person who comes in last to feel embarrassed because they know they didn't deserve it. So that makes them feel worse right, so you take this group of people and they graduate school and they get a job and they're thrust into an it into the real world and in an instant they find out they're not special their moms can't get them a promotion. That you get nothing for coming in last and by the way you can't just have it cuz you want it and in an instant their entire self-image is shattered and so you have an entire generation that's growing up with lower self-esteem than previous generations.
The other problem to compound, it is we're growing up in a Facebook, Instagram world in other words. We're good at putting filters on things. We're good at showing people that life is amazing even though I'm depressed and so everybody sounds tough and everybody sounds like they got it all figure it out and the reality is there's very little toughness and most people don't have it figure it out and so when the more senior people say well what we do, they sound like this is what you got it in and they have no clue, so you have an entire generation growing up with lower self-esteem than previous generations right through no fault of their own through no fault of their own right they were dealt a bad hand now let's add in technology.
We know that engagement with social media and our cell phones releases a chemical called dopamine. That's why when you get a text it feels good, all right so you know we've all had it where you're feeling a little bit down or feeling a bit lonely and so you send out ten texts to ten friends you know, Hi! Hi! Hi! Hi! Hi! cuz it feels good. when you get a response it's why we count the likes, it's why we go back ten times to see if and if it's going, if our mints and my Instagram is growing slower and what I did I do something wrong, do they don't like me anymore, right the trauma for young kids to be unfriended right because we know when you get it you get a hit a dopamine which feels good. It's why we like it. It's why we keep going back to it. Dopamine is the exact same chemical that makes us feel good, when we smoke when we drink and when we gamble in other words. It's highly! highly addictive right. We have age restrictions on smoking gambling and alcohol and we have no age restrictions on social media and cell phones which is the equivalent of opening up the liquor cabinet and saying to our teenagers.
Hey by the way this adolescence thing if it gets you down but that's basically what's happening, that's basically what's happening right that's basically what happened. You have an entire generation that has access to an addictive numbing to chemical called dopamine, through social media and cellphones as they're going through the high stress of adolescence. Why is this important almost every alcoholic discovered alcohol when they were teenagers. When we're very young the only approval we need is the approval of our parents and as we go through adolescence we make this transition where we now need the approval of our peers very frustrating for our parents very important for us that allows us to acculturate outside of our immediate families into the broader tribe right it's a highly, highly stressful and anxious period of our lives and we're supposed to learn to rely on our friends.
Some people quite by accident discover alcohol and numbing effects of dopamine them cope with the stresses and anxieties of adolescence unfortunately that becomes hardwired in their brains and for the rest of their lives. When they suffer significant stress they will not turn into a person they will turn to the bottle.
Social stress, financial stress and career stress that's pretty much the primary reasons, why an alcoholic drinks. what's happening is because we're out allowing unfettered access to these dopamine producing devices and media. Basically it's becoming hardwired and what we're seeing is as they grow older too many kids don't know how to form deep meaningful relationships. Their words not mine they will admit that many of their friendships are superficial. They will admit that their friends that they don't count on their friends they don't rely on their friends they have fun with their friends but they also know that their friends will cancel out them that something better comes along. Deep meaningful relationships are not there because they never practice the skill set and worse they don't have the coping mechanisms to deal with stress so when significant stress starts to show up in their lives. They're not turning to a person, they're turning to a device, they're turning to social media, they're turning to these things which offer temporary relief.
We know the science is clear. We know that people who spend more time on Facebook so far higher rates of depression than people spend less time on Facebook. These things balanced alcohol is not bad too much alcohol is bad gambling is fun too much gambling is dangerous. There's nothing wrong with social media and cell phones, it's the imbalance if you're sitting at dinner with your friends and you're texting somebody who's not there that's a problem that's an addiction. if you're sitting in a meeting with people you're supposed to be listening to and speaking and you put your phone on the table face up or face down I don't care that sends a subconscious message to the room and you're not just, you're just not that important to me right now, right! that's what happens and the fact that you cannot put it away is because you are addicted, right! if you wake up and you check your phone before you say good morning to your girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse you have an addiction and like all addiction in time it will destroy relationships it'll cost time and it'll cost money and it'll make your life worse so you have a generation growing up with lower self-esteem that doesn't have the coping mechanisms to do with stress and stress now you add in the sense of impatience. 
They've grown up in a world of instant gratification you want to buy something you go on Amazon. It arrives the next day, you want to watch a movie log on and watch a movie, you don't check the movie times, you want to watch your TV show binge you don't even have to wait week to week to week right I know people who skip seasons just so they can binge at the end of the season right instant gratification. You want to go on a date you don't even have to learn how to be like you don't even have to learn and practice that skill you don't have to be the uncomfortable into insists is yes when you mean known says no when you mean no mean yes when you. You have to swipe right think I'm a stud right. You don't have to learn the social coping mechanisms everything you want. You can have instantaneously everything you want instant gratification except job satisfaction and strength of relationships there aren’t no app for that. They are slow meandering uncomfortable messy processes and so I keep meeting these wonderful fantastic idealistic hard-working smart kids they just graduated school. They're in their entry-level job, I sit down with them when I go hasn't going they go I think I'm gonna quit they're like I'm not making an impact.
I'm like you've been here eight months it's as if they're standing at the foot of a mountain and they have this abstract concept called impact but they want to have in the world which is the summit. What they don't see is the mountain. I don't care if you go up the mountain quickly or slowly but there's still a mountain and so what this young generation needs to learn is patience. that some things that really, really matter like love or job fulfillment joy love of life self-confidence a skill set any of these things all of these things take time. Sometimes you can expedite pieces of it but the overall journey is arduous and long and difficult and if you don't ask for help and learn that skill set you will fall off the mountain or you will the worst case scenario the worst case scenario and we're already seeing it the worst case scenario is we're seeing increase in suicide rates we're seeing an increase in this generation we're seeing increase in accidental deaths due to drug overdoses. We're seeing more and more kids drop out of school or take leaves of absence due to depression unheard of these are this is really bad the best-case scenario. The bet those are all bad cases, right! The best case scenario is you'll have an entire population growing up and going through life and just never really finding joy.
It'll never really find deep, deep fulfillment and work or in life they'll just walk through life and it'll change just it's fine how's your job it's fine the same is yesterday how's your relationship it's fine like that’s. The best-case scenario which leads me to the fourth point which is environment. 
Which is we're taking this amazing group of young fantastic kids would just dealt a bad hand it's no fault of their own and we put them in corporate environments that care more about the numbers than they do about the kids. They care more about the short-term gains than the long-term life of this young human being. We care more about the year than the lifetime, right! and so we are putting them in corporate environments that aren't helping them build their confidence.
That aren't helping them learn the skills of cooperation that aren't helping them overcome the challenges of a digital world and finding more balance. That isn't helping them overcome the need to have instant gratification and teach them the joys and impact when the fulfillment you get from working hard over on something for a long time. That cannot be done in a month or even in a year and so we're thrusting to them. Them in corporate environments and the worst part about, it is they think it's them they blame themselves they can't they think it's them who can't deal and so it makes it all worse, it's not I'm here to tell them it's not them it's the corporations.
It's the corporate environments it's the total lack of good leadership in our world today that is making them feel the way they do. They would dealt a bad hand in it and I hate to say it but it's the company's responsibility sucks to be you like we have no choice, right! this is what we got and I wish that society and their parents did a better job they didn't so we're goanna we're getting them in our companies and we now have to pick up the slack we have to work extra hard to figure out the ways that we build their confidence. We have to work extra hard to find ways to teach them social. 
The social skills that they're missing out on there should be no cell phones and conference rooms none zero and I don't mean the kind of like sitting outside waiting to text. I mean like when you're sitting and waiting for a meeting to start nobody go this is what we all do. We all sit here and wait for the meeting to start meaning starting okay. When we start the meeting no that's not how relationships are formed remember we talked about it's the little things relationships were formed this way we're waiting for a meeting to start me go how's your dad? I heard he was in hospital! oh he's really good, thanks for asking! He's actually at home there it was really amazing. I know it was really scary for them that's how you form relationships hey did you ever get that report on oh my god no I didn't. I'll help you out I totally uh can I help you out with that really that's how trust forms. 
Trust doesn't form at an event in a day even bad times don't form trust immediately, it's the slow steady consistency and we have to create mechanisms where we allow for those little innocuous interactions to happen but when we allow cell phones and companies we just okay have a meeting and then my favorite is like when there's a cell phone there and you go like that you go it rings ago I'm not gonna answer that Mr. magnanimous. 
You know when you're out for dinner with your friends like. I do this with my friends, when we're going out for dinner and we're leaving together we'll leave our cellphones at home. Who are we calling maybe one of us will bring a phone in case we need to pull a new booth or take a picture of our meal ideal it's been about the same I mean it looked really good we'll take one phone and so it's like an alcoholic. The reason you take the alcohol out of the house sweet is because we cannot trust our willpower.

We're just not strong enough but when you remove the temptation it actually makes it a lot easier and so when you just say don't check your phone people literally will go like this and somebody will go to the bathroom and what's the first thing we do because I wouldn't want to look around the restaurant for a minute and a half but if you don't have the phone you just kind of enjoy the world and that's where ideas happen. The constant, constant, constant engagement is not where you have innovation and ideas, ideas happen when our minds wander and we go and you see something on can do that that's called innovation right but we're taking away all those little moments right you should not and none of us none of us should charge our phones by our beds we should be charging our phones in the living rooms right remove the temptation you wake up in the middle of night cuz you can't sleep you won't check your phone which makes it worse but if it's in the living room it's relaxed it's fine. Hiya! but it's my alarm clock fine alarm clock they cost $8 I'll buy you but the point is we now in industry whether we like it or not we don't get a choice we now have a responsibility to make up the shortfall and to help this amazing idealistic, fantastic generation build their countries learn patience learn the social skills find a better balance between life and technology because quite frankly it's. It’s the right thing to do. 

Billionaires Do This For 10 Minutes Every Morning

Billionaires Do This For 10 Minutes Every Morning

THE MILLION DOLLAR MORNING ROUTINE

By: Mel Robbins

I want you to find 10 to 15 minutes, that's it! that's all it takes 10 to 15 minutes, I want to teach you how you use some simple things.To push through the excuses that are always going to be there and the fear that's always going to be there so that you can do what you need to do every day, in order to ensure self-closer to whatever that big goal is.
How you start your morning determines how your day goes! That's right! How your morning starts determines how your day goes, There's so much research about productivity and happiness and so many of you are focused on “what do we need to do? what do I need to do? how do I get more stuff done?” and you get busier and busier and busier and I want you to understand something being productive, being happy, being in control of your life it has nothing to do with when you get up. It has everything to do with how you get up and so a routine refresh is something that you have to do you have to do it because you must have in learning routine if you don't have a morning routine your entire day will get hijacked if you don't have a morning routine you're gonna wake up behind you're gonna wake up stressed out you're gonna wake up and make a major mistake which is you're going to let the world come into your brain and set your priorities before you even put yourself first and so a routine refresh is critical. Refresh your routine! 
Why is this important because there is so much science that talks about the power of your morning routine and there's also so much noise out there about the morning routine but all of the articles out there tend to be written by guys that have two and a half hours before work starts to somehow drink mushroom tea and met and go to yoga and exercise and drink bulletproof coffee and sit in an infrared sauna and I don't know what planet these people live on but they clearly don't have children or a job they need to get to at eight o'clock in the morning I'm being realistic. I'm being realistic about the fact that you need a morning routine but you need one that works for you. See I had a morning routine that used to take me 30 to 40 minutes last year when I had more time I've had a morning routine that took an hour when I had time and the ability to go for a jog in the morning. I had incorporate that in the morning routine, my morning routine 10 minutes long that's it it's 10 minutes long because that's what works for me in this season of my life and so I am inviting you to do a routine refresh where I'm gonna walk you through the science of a morning routine. I'm going to take you step-by-step in this guide through how you should be thinking about the components of what you want to do every morning in your morning routine and I am also begging you to customize it so that it works for you because the truth is if it doesn't work for where you are in your life right now you're not going to do it and the most effective morning routine is the one that you actually do every morning I've got a question from Diego and this is gonna relate back to your morning routine from Diego.
I have a dream of opening my own restaurant but I'm terrified to start how many of you have ever thought about opening up a restaurant we're starting a small business or having some kind of side hustle doesn't have to be a restaurant the American Dream used to be I really dream of owning do you know what the American Dream is now for the majority of people its I want to own my own business and so whether you're interested in launching a restaurant or you would love to have a business of any size shape or form in any vertical that you can think of this is a question that you need to pay attention to okay because I know this is also impacting you.
I'm terrified start I know I have the potential to be really successful but I just can't get myself to actually do something about it you know sometimes when the dream is so big the fact that it's so big becomes paralyzing because you think about where you are right now and you think holy cow that thing that I really want. I don't even like how do you even start when the dream is so big so here's what we're gonna do today we're gonna shrink it down I don't want you to think about opening a restaurant. I don't want you to think about launching that business because that's something that will happen a year from now what I want you to think about is I want you to shrink your thinking. I want you to think about researching a restaurant I want you to think about preparing to launch a restaurant. I want you to think about learning about launching a restaurant to see how just saying I want to learn about launching a restaurant changes how you feel versus, I'm launching a restaurant which feels so big you're just in a phase where you're learning and researching this idea which all of a sudden takes all the pressure off doesn't it so that's number one let's shrink it let's not talk about launching it let's not talk about building it. let's talk about researching and learn about it okay so that takes the pressure off then the next thing that I want you to do is I want you to focus on something that I talk about all the time if you're researching and learning about launching a restaurant or a business all I want you to do.
I want you to find 10 to 15 minutes that's it, that's all it takes 10 to 15 minutes and I want you to do one thing for 10 or 15 minutes a day that helps you learn or research about the idea of launching a restaurant how many of you are starting to feel a little bit lighter how many of you are starting to feel like holy cow thinking about it that way I actually could get started today making this smaller and making it something that I'm learning about rather than doing and launching that somehow thinking about it differently frees up the ability to get started I want you to do one small thing a day so what could you do. You could read an article about somebody that launched a first-time restaurant you could look online for 10 to 15 minutes for a local restaurant networking event you're not launching or building a restaurant yet you're learning about it and you're researching it and your job as a student of this subject is to do something every day for 10 or 15 minutes in order to learn or research it that's it that's all I want you to do because here's what I know if I get you to start doing that and you do this every day for 10 or 15 minutes which you absolutely can guess what's gonna happen you're gonna feel momentum you're gonna feel like you're working on it you're gonna meet people that are interested in it you're gonna learn things that are gonna lead to the next thing that you need to learn and you will have mastered the art of getting started and by doing something a little bit every day you're also gonna master the art of continuing to keep going and from there it'll snowball I promise you.
I promise you as you meet people the next thing you'll do would be to learn more from them as you read and watch tutorials about people that have started restaurants as you watch television programming about it you're gonna feel more inspired you're gonna start to see I think that can do this.
That's gonna lead to the next thing trust me when I say it's all about the little progress, you make every day. I want you to stop talking about launching it and building it and I want you to shrink it back too. I'm learning about it and researching it that's number one number two 10 to 15 minutes a day you are a student of this subject that's it get yourself a notebook where you keep all your notes get yourself organized like you would as a student and find one thing you can do every single day that teaches you a little bit something about this subject. That you're really interested in and trust me it'll all happen just by doing that there will always be an excuse not to do the things you need to do particularly the things that scare you that you have to dream you have to visualize.

We're going to talk about the science of visualization it's easy to dream it's really hard to do and I want to teach you how you use some simple things to push through the excuses that are always going to be there and the fear that's always going to be there so that you can do what you need to do every day in order to ensure self-closer to whatever that big goal is what I want you to do is I want you to use a science back tool called visualization to your advantage there's hard science around visualization but I've noticed that most people only explain 50% of what you're supposed to do but it's critical that you understand the two-step process of what you're going to do in terms of visualization and that's this piece of visualization that everybody misses that the science says is the most important you can't just write down your goals it won't work you can't just put up a board with photos on it. It won't work you have to do the second part which is you have to imagine yourself taking the steps to get there not the end-all this is powerful research out of UCLA this is what will make visualization work not just the pretty endgame but visualize the steps that you're taking to get there and then here's the kicker you're ready for the most important research you've got to allow yourself to feel the emotions associated with it you've got to make you visual board it's a really powerful thing to do for sure but then I want you to visualize yourself every day doing the steps leading up to it this is research from UCLA and I want you to allow yourself to feel the emotions feel the emotions that you will feel as you're doing those things feel pride feel excited you.